Monthly Archives: October 2012

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“If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking. But when you ask him, be sure that your faith is in God alone. Do not waver, for a person with divided loyalty is as unsettled as a wave of the sea that is blown and tossed by the wind. Such people should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. Their loyalty is divided between God and the world, and they are unstable in everything they do.” -James 1:5-8

I sure am glad for this promise.

Sadly, I have to say that I have felt “tossed by the wind” before. Anytime I try to make a decision without consulting God first that usually happens. 

I start to think to myself “I know what’s best” and don’t even consider that God has something better.

Then, I get tossed around among my own emotions.

You see, when I make decisions before taking them to God first, I base them on my feelings.

I am a feeler, not too much of a critical thinker. If I am not careful, I can do and say things based on how I feel. That goes for decision making too.

The next day, my feelings have changed and that makes me want to change the choice I  made.  It can become an exhausting cycle.

I am so thankful for the promise that James brings in Verse 5. If we lack wisdom all we need to do is ask GOD! 

Yay! 🙂 

Our feelings about jobs, relationships, ministry opportunities, spending our money,and what do with our time can change from day to day, but God never changes! He is our Rock, Hope, and Confidence.

We need to ask Him for wisdom and then believe He will do it.

I needed to be reminded of that Truth today. I hope you all have a great start to your week. 

 

With Joy,

Miss Kim

 

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Tonight, I had a revelation. I was watching my celeb crush, Mr. Kevin James, in “Here Comes the Boom,” and it hit me.

I need to expect more.

By this,I don’t mean I need to hold out for Kevin James because I am fairly certain he is married.

I don’t exactly quite know how to sum up what I mean but I will try to explain it.

In the movie, Kevin James’s character has a crush on Salma Hayek’s character. He asks her out several times, and she always says no. One time, he asked her, “Why do you always tell no?”

She says, “Well, first of all, have you ever noticed how every time you ask me out, you are sitting down.”

He explained something about how comfortable he is with her.

As I thought about this later, I realized it makes a lot of sense. Why would someone ever say yes to someone who isn’t even willing to stand up when the he asks them out in the first place?

I felt empowered.

Yes, getting into your mid-to- lateish 20’s and still not finding the right person can be scary. Isn’t being with someone who doesn’t stand up for you even scarier though?

I know I can’t be the only one who has lowered my expectations to compensate for the fear of being alone.

I am sure a lot of us single ladies out there do it and we don’t even realize it.

We mask it with a lot of excuses. We say they don’t call because they hate the phone. We say they don’t ask us out because they are busy at work. We say they only text because “Guys just don’t communicate in person that well.” We tell ourselves that we have unreasonably high expectations based on our fathers, brothers, friend’s husbands, and fairy tale characters.

No matter how we may mask it, we are lowering our expectations. We are saying its okay for guys to passively show some sort of interest in us, instead of pursuing us.

I in NO way am an expert on this topic, but I have just realized this isn’t okay.

I think I may be speaking for many single Christian girls out there who just feel like the guys out there aren’t meeting expectations.

I am not saying I expect some guy to fall all over me, send flowers weekly, plan extravagant dates, and call constantly. I know that is also unrealistic.

I’m just saying we need to expect more from the guys we like, date, marry etc. We need to expect them to pursue Christ passionately, pursue us, stand up for us, and fight for us.

Why?

Well, because Ephesians 5 paints us a picture of a Godly relationship.

“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

25″ Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her26 to make her holy, cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wivesas their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[c] 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” 5 :25-33

You see, if at the liking, talking, or dating stage, if the men in our lives aren’t stepping it up, what makes you think they will when you marry them?

How can we expect them to love us as Christ loves the church, if they can’t pursue us in the way Christ pursues us?

 

Guys out there: We don’t expect extravagance, but we do expect you to pursue us. Stand up.

Girls: (me included.)- We need to expect more. We need to hold the men in our lives to a higher standard so that we will be able to respect them and submit to them.

Remember the One who first loved us. He loves us and pursues us SO passionately. He cares for us and has plans better than even our own.

He is telling us to rest in Him, abide in Him, and delight ourselves in Him.

Whether you get married next month, next year, in 10 years, or never, God is always in control.

He wants what is best for us, but that means sometimes we need to let go of what may be good, and hold on to something Greater.

God’s best is always the best.

(Just some random thoughts rollin’ around in my brain.)

With Joy,

Miss Kim

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Well, friends. The busy-ness of October has got the best of me.

It’s already the 17th! I can’t believe it.

It’s also Fall Break. Let me tell you, 3:45 couldn’t have come soon enough today!

I love my kids, but you know I really think absence may make my tired teacher heart grow fonder!:)

It’s been a little bit eventful this week.

We will start with Monday night. I was leaving a dinner with some of my teacher friends and we were on the way to Wal-mart to get some super cool Halloween shirts ( I know, I am dressing by holidays. I am a professional educator after all.).

I was in the turn lane to go to Wal-mart. On the street my lights had been acting funny and the radio stopped, but I didn’t think much of it. Then all of the sudden, I was in the middle of the turn lane with a dead car. It wouldn’t start. I looked behind me and 2 of my teacher friends were right behind me. I don’t know why, but the 3 of us burst into laughter!

What possessed this? I have no idea. My friend that was driving behind me had a messed up front bumper, so she gently pushed my car with her car into safety. It was quite comical trying to get it up a small hill into the parking lot. I then was rescued by my family.  I felt so blessed and peaceful knowing that even though trouble came, God was in control.

I was very calm. We charged the battery and I drove to my mom’s house before going all the way to mine. I was in her house about 10 minutes and then I tried to start my car and it wouldn’t start. Ugggh. I didn’t laugh as much this time.

I drove my mom’s car home and then met her to take her to work Tuesday morning. I checked my car before we left, and it was running again! Yay!:) I drove to school carefully. No problems.

We decided to change a cable on the car after work, so I drove to Mom’s again. This time, the car stopped right in her driveway! Uggh again! We got it working, and I drove it to my house last night.  I was still amazed that it broke down in a driveway and not the middle of the street. Once again God was looking out for me.

This morning, I left for school about 6:30 ish to get some things done early. I got all the way back to Muskogee and my car died again, in a turn lane.

If you were on Country Club Road about 6:50 this morning, you probably saw us pushing my poor Ford Focus through the intersection.

This time, I wasn’t very cheerful, positive, or calm. I was upset!

God and I had to have a little talk before I made it to school this morning.

I was stuck at an intersection. I wanted to panic! This time, there wasn’t anyone behind me. I wasn’t in a safe location. I was stuck in my car in an intersection waiting for help to come through.

All of these doubts and worries and fears crept into my mind. I kept trying to pray them down, but the enemy was really getting me this time.

By the time my parents came to rescue me, I had already told myself I would be car-less, job less and homeless. I had believed the lie that I was worthless.

All because one little thing went wrong.

Yep, in the middle of my hissy fit, God and I had a talk.

You see, God is always constant. He was there the 1st 2 times my car broke down, and he was still there the 3 time. It was real easy for me to be thankful and peaceful when I was in a safe location or surrounded with friendly help, but it was a lot harder to trust in those 10 minutes I was our there alone, just waiting.

God reminded me that even though things happen, he still loves me madly and deeply. That he adores me and has a  PLAN and a HOPE and a FUTURE for me. That he will go down to the depths with me, and rise up in the heights.

You know what? I calmed down. I still got to work on time. My dad took my car and it will be fixed by tomorrow.  I have a home, family, friends, a car. God has provided for all of those needs. He has also brought peace to my soul once again.

You see, the first two times it broke down, we assumed it was a battery, but it was really the alternator. It took us 3 times to realize that. Funny, God sometimes has to let things happen to me more than once to let us know He has got this.

As I wrote down my ramblings, I thought of this set of verses. I really could post all of James chapter 1. It is really resonating with me tonight.

“Count it all joy, my brothers,[b] when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.”- James 1:2-4

Thankful that God allows trials ( big and small) in our lives. He is trying to build us up as mature warriors of this faith. His joy is gonna be our strength!

 

With Joy,

Miss Kim

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I will admit it. I had to do some behavior modification on myself this evening.

I was needing to get my house cleaned real bad, so I set a timer and offered myself the reward of Diet DP and Netflix  if I finished on time.

I finished 16 minutes early.

Now, not only do I have my DDP, but I also have a clean smelling house, folded laundry, put away dishes, and that peaceful feeling clutter freaks like me get after a good clean.

Plus, I had time to blog! Yay!

Today I tried a bit of a behavior modification on my students.  We started a “phrase of week” on a whim today. I noticed a lot of kids complaining and arguing,so I paraphrased a verse in Philippians and we started repeating, “Do everything without complaining or arguing.”

We repeated it a few times, and I can already see a bit of improvement.  Our word of the month is Obedience, so I feel getting this down would be helpful in our trek to becoming obedient.

I will admit, sometimes I can get like the kids in my class. I complain. I argue. I wrestle.  I fight. I make things tough. Sometimes I am not very obedient.

Sometimes, I don’t just act this way with people. Sometimes I act this way with God.  I know he doesn’t really like that.

I find myself although smiling and energetically doing things on the outside, but on the inside I am complaining and arguing in my heart.  Outside I am happy to do “one more thing,” but on the inside I complain “They never have to do it.”

I wonder if any of y’all can relate.

All of that complaining and arguing can lead to a heart of bitterness.  If we aren’t careful, we can become hardened, angry, selfish, and disobedient.

All that those things produce are negative attitudes that certainly aren’t refreshing to others or pleasing to God.

On the other hand, when we learn to do things for man and more importantly for God, with cheerful, obedient hearts,  we trade that bitterness for JOY!

Joy, is my favorite word! (Well, joy then hope.)

Join with me as we begin this workweek in memorizing this truth from God’s holy word.

“Do everything without grumbling or arguing,  so that you may become blameless and pure, “children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.”Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky as you hold firmly to the word of life.” Phil. 2:14-16 (NIV)

See that? Not only does an attitude of gratitude produce joy and obedience, it also lets us shine. Shine like stars. Stars burning bright  with the Love of God!

Let’s go out and shine this week.

With joy,

Miss Kim