- Usually when something gets brought up in discussion a few times during the week, I start to feel that tug on my heart. That tug that says, ” Maybe you should write about this.”
Right now there are a lot of things swirling around in my head that I should write about, trust, God’s timing, My John 14 notes that aren’t finished, lots of things….
I woke up before my alarm this morning, I knew that this topic was what I wanted to tackle.
This whole conversation actually dates a few years back. One of the guys at the BCM was recounting a story his now wife had told him when they were beginning there relationship. It was about the difference between fishermen and hunters.
Since then the concept has been shared a few times. I have added some details, as have people along the way. In recent history, I have told the story twice in the past two weeks, so I feel it’s ready to hit blog world.
What brought this whole conversation up? Girls asking what they should look for in a guy.
You see, there are two kinds of men in the world ( before you get mad, understand, yes I am stereotyping, and yes I do understand that men are unique and some just can’t be pigeonholed.)
There are fishermen. You see fishermen, when it comes to women, like to just cast their line out there and see what they can get. They make it all shiny with bait, worms, whatever, and through it into the lake and see what they can catch. Once a fish ( yes ladies, in this instance, you are the fish) takes the bait, they reel them in. Then they can decide whether you are good enough to keep, or throw back. Sometimes they get good fish that they love to show off and talk about, but sometimes they get little not worth it fish, or even worse, an old shoe someone threw in the lake.
Fisherman kind of cast this wide net to see what’s out there. Sometimes they are serious, but mostly they fish, just to well fish.
There is nothing wrong with the sport fishing. My brother, my dad, and many of the men I know are avid fishermen ( of actual fish.) I am just saying when it comes to dating, ladies, we deserve something better.
We deserve to be hunted ( err, pursued.)
The men who are hunters are pursuers. I have learned a lot about hunting recently, ( well through Duck Dynasty, which by the way is a great great show). Hunters take finding their game very seriously. They construct decoys to get the game’s attention. They was their clothes in special stuff to disguise their scent. They have 27 different calls to help get the right duck. They sit out for hours in a blind or a stand, just waiting. They wait for that special thing to come along. They sit and watch and learn about it. They figure out the interests, they send the mating calls, and the decoys. They sit for hours, just waiting. Waiting for the right game to come along. They stay steady and strong. Right at the right moment, they shoot. Usually, their pursuit pays off. You don’t see many hunters throw deer,ducks, or turkeys back, right? You see them display their game with pride.
Do you see the difference. When looking for someone to share your life with, you want to find someone more like the hunter. Someone who will take the time to get to know you as a person. Someone who will care about you, pursue you, and wait for just the right time to make his move.
Ladies, I have been victim, as I am sure most of you have, of being fish that just get thrown back. We need to wait for men that will pursue us, value us, and know our worth.
This hunting/fishing analogy was an analogy. It does not 100 percent determine ones success in dating and finding a spouse.
There is something that will though. Prayer. Ask God who that person is that you waiting for. Ask God to reveal to you the characteristics you should look for. Ask God to make you into the person he has for you to be. Let Him mold and shape you and allow you to pursue/be pursued at just the right time.
After all, we only can love others because He first loved us. He pursued us, fights for us, and loves us more than anyone on this Earth ever could.
I know a lot of you out there may be in the boat where you are just wondering what God is going to do. I am in that same boat. We just have to trust that his way and timing our perfect. He is our hope and our shield. Our confidence.
Ladies, if we want to find men worth our time and attention, we need to be pour out our desires before the cross, and ask the man who loved us first and loves us the MOST. (Same for you too men, just didn’t know how to make it eloquent.)
:”Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of you heart.” Psalm 37:4
“God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear,because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. We love because he first loved us.” 1 John 4:16-19
“Promise me, O women of Jerusalem, not to awaken love until the time is right.” Song of Solomon 8:4